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Ramifications Of Educator Sexual Misconduct

There are no tattoos to warn others, nor is there a view screen on their forehead to
allow others to see what might be on their mind.  They have a label because it is
necessary. Our most important asset, the women and children of society, are
those most endangered by sex offenders.  I want to share with you, primarily from
a teacher’s perspective, the modus operands that are employed to affect these
offenses.  It is vital to us that we accomplish this sharing, for it is these offenses
that create victims,   and also causes the pain and losses that families, friends, the
school, and the community experience as a result.   It is critically important that
this information be analyzed carefully, especially in that it deals with a sensitive
subject - long overdue for attention - but especially because it can be easily

Your first job, first.  For teachers, and all others, it is important to stay in your job,
stay close to your expertise.  This is the area for which you are trained, this is the
information/activity for which that the youngster is seeking communications with
you.  Avoid counseling.  To go into areas such as counseling, even on a
superficial level, is to invite danger.  For one, teachers have a lack of training in the
counseling domain.  “Kiddy Psyche,” "Sociology 101," and "Classroom
Management" fall well short of providing ethical guidelines.  Those of us trained
for the classroom are left to our own moralistic and ethical mores.  Society had
prepared us through the growing-up years and through example how to live as
mature, contributing adults.     The emotional traps in counseling that exist for the
untrained is an issue that begs attention.  The emotional make-up of mankind,
especially the males, is strongly sexual.  Coupled with an emotional attachment,
deviant or otherwise, the combination gives challenge to an already ill-defined
“red line” that exists between adults and potential victims of sexual abuse.

By avoiding personal/intimate topics the danger of straying into an emotional
attachment is considerably lessened.  It is all too easy for teachers, clergy, and
scout leaders, to be the supporting listener for any troubled youth.  And once the
listening begins, it is an issue of the heart. The self-discipline to terminate and to
leave the troubled youth without the obvious support is difficult.  Yet, if some
break is not made, subsequent sessions easily follow.

Adults must be quick to recognize the role of others: counselors/ teachers/family.  
The excuse that today’s families are not as in the “olden” days should not be used
to avoid contact.  At least try.  Even if the family is dysfunctional, be sure that
notice is given that help has been sought and that your position precludes further
help.  Adults in this position should share with them- counselors/teachers/family-
all questionable concerns.  That would certainly include topics outside of
curriculum and topics that cause you discomfort.  Indeed, topics that cause
discomfort should raise all kinds of red flags, and topics outside your curriculum
and outside of educational (or religious, scouting concerns, etc.) boundaries
should be examined closely.  Obviously it is acceptable to help a young person
balance their checkbook (etc.) but once the subject strays to boy-girl/friends, tread

Items/topics that are kept from family/others should be questioned.    Students
may look to someone outside of the family to share things with.   That has red
flags all over it.  It is your responsibility to send students to the counselor and to
talk to the counselor in confidence of the concerns that this issue raised.     The
question of why issues are not shared with family/counselors is another example
of red flags flying.  Young people who will not share with those that are supposed
to be their best advocates are walking much too close to the edge and that needs
to be recognized.  This is an important concern, much too important to be that left
in the hands of the untrained teacher. Consider the vulnerability. This is an issue
that feeds well into the MO of a manipulative sex offender.

Adults should by nature be uncomfortable with secretive dialogue which again is
unethical at best, especially when shared with an adolescent.  Educator sex
offenders will  use  this personal dialogue, the sharing of a student’s inner-most
secrets, to further strengthen the “bond”   between them.  As part of the grooming
and manipulative process, a great deal of dependence can be built by being part of
the personal and intimate aspects of the student’s life.  The student will place a
great deal of confidence and trust in teachers  and will be willing to share more
and more of their life, and more and more of the issues that   should be directed to
qualified personnel.  The fact that teachers  should share nothing exclusively with
adolescents is not an issue with which offenders will deal.  Teacher offenders will
place themselves in the role of a teacher/coach confidante and use that role in the
grooming process.  This fits the MO of the sexual offender.

How are teachers able to carry out these assaults with the visibility that teachers
have?  Again, the dynamics of behavior for teachers who are sex offenders are
extremely subtle.  They are well known in the school system, often for long
periods of time.  They are well known as teachers, coaches, band directors,
chaperons and advisors, of both boys and girls, and may be leaders in special
fields. They may be or have been recognized as a Teacher of the Year.   On the
surface they may be “the last person who would ever offend...” in such a manner.  
This “most understanding friend” cover makes a convenient mask for their
deviant activities.  It creates the “blind spot” as alluded to by Dr. Wiley, a
researcher of ethical practices for the educational community.

This blind spot may be no less than an excuse, a cover for a lack of diligence, but
it bears merit and needs to be addressed—with a word of caution which begs for
repetition.  Offenders use this blind spot on the part of their colleagues to hide the
offending activities amongst the normal, everyday routine of teaching.  They will
even “accent their normal activities," such as placing a chair next to or in the open
doorway of the room when the victim is in the room alone with them.  Whenever
the victim is in the room alone, offenders will maintain a high level of visibility and
have the victim visit them in the room when other students are present.  Teachers
passing through the room on daily errands come to view the victim’s presence as
normal.  However, the blind spot fails at monitoring daily contact because it
becomes the norm for the victim to be visiting on a daily basis.  The blind spot
creates a false sense of security, circumventing the issues of visits; how often is
appropriate and how much is appropriate?  In the distorted thinking of the
offender, they want the victim to visit often so they  can continue to build upon
his/her dependence on them and to perpetuate the deviant activities with him/her.

The word of caution is that being “nosy” (concerned) about colleagues is an
important issue.  Without becoming a witch hunt, colleagues need to watch each
other’s backs and weigh carefully the activities that are observed.  For all intents
and purposes, offender’s observed activities are certainly within acceptable
administration enables them to continue the sexual abuse of their victims by being
too busy or relying on the teacher cadre to be diligent.   Colleagues and
supervisors and even casual friends, need to step-in/interject when questions
arise about too much time being spent with one student or when there is
unaccounted time - missing meetings, events, etc.  Here the offender can take  
advantage of the blind spot  by carrying out all of his duties and doing many extra
things in and around the school community.  They remain highly visible and
available.  They are at practice with their team on time, but may have left school
prior to practice to call or receive a call from their victim.  They may have made
arrangements to meet him/her or pick him/her up after school and spend that time
with them before  practice.   Sex offenders  live two interwoven lives.  But that
always leaves room for compromise; it is difficult to lead two lives without making
errors.  When questions arise, when there appears to be personal turmoil, others
need to be appropriately nosy and carefully assess what they see.  It would be
very advisable to share the concern with others such as the dept. Chairperson or
a counselor.  The more input and the more persons involved the better.  And of
course the school may be starting to appreciate the difference.

All of these factors contributed to the offense; they are all part of the MO for
offenders, some more accomplished than others.  And there are many other
factors that even I am not aware of.  It is critically important that adults maintain
boundaries/relative “positions” with the youth with whom they are working.  If
there are rules and regulations specific to a job or position, they are there for
reasons that need not be questioned.  Unfortunately, the sex offender amends
rules and regulations as s/he sees fit and is in such a state of distorted thinking
that the behaviors are viewed as normal.  “He who needs help the most, sees it the
least.”  For this reason, behaviors must be questioned or in the least, noted

Two powerful influences that can be avoided, especially for young teens, are
empowering and codependency.  Teens are especially vulnerable to feeling the
power of control over situations, certainly where the power is exerted over adults;
the “puppy eyes” syndrome and the quick tears, innocent enough - maybe?  The
sex offender will “give ground” and listen to input from the victim, acting on
suggestions and decisions much as if the input came from another adult. They will
empower their victims as they act upon their suggestions and gave them credence
as a peer.  This bolsters the victim’s feeling of power over the offender and
strengthens the endearment which is the end of means.  With this sort of
compromise, there is an apparent codependency between the victim and
offender.  This in turn strengthens the hold on h/her as s/he becomes more and
more comfortable with the support generated by the codependency.

The offender may also contact the victim’s family, most always the mother, to gain
greater and greater latitude in the topics that were “OK”  to share with the victim.    
In gaining a parent’s permission – a “blanket” permission for discussions – the
offender  enables himself to continue the abuse of their victim.  This blanket
permission gives “permission” to continue the activities.  This obviously is an
aspect of   distorted thinking that the offender somehow has obtained an “OK”
from mom to continue the activities - of which she knows nothing.

This is a very common “trap” for lack of a better descriptor.  More than one
educator has confirmed that there are no guidelines, except one’s own comfort
level, for the topics that are appropriate or “safe” for teachers and other adults
dealing with young people.  It is human nature to be compassionate and the
stories are many where teachers have taken it upon themselves to be helpful and
supportive.  The fact that there are few reported cases of abuse underscores the
validity of the teacher acting in this capacity.  But even one sexually assaulted
student is one too many, and the potential is always there.  To avoid this trap in the
main, topics must be censored/restricted to an adult’s area/subject and when it is
realized and/or determined that boundaries are being nudged, other professions
need to be referred.  It is much too easy to listen “just once more” or to “just one
more issue” with which the adult may feel s/he can help.  This is the bait for the
trap.  At the same time, teachers, scout leaders, coaches, etc., have to be available
with a shoulder for our young people.  It is not an easy line to navigate.  I’m sure
you know.  Maybe most of you have been there, but you didn't’t offend....

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