Expanded Topic Outline

Teachers/coaches/instructors/others that work with children

I. Your first job, first.    
A.  Avoid counseling.           
1. lack of training            
2. emotional traps  
B.  Avoid personal/intimate topics   
II. Role of others- counselors/teachers/family.    
A.  Share with them all questionable concerns.            
1. topics outside of curriculum
2. topics that cause (you) discomfort.     
B.  items/topics that are kept from family/others should be questioned   
1.  why issues were not shared with family/counselors   
2.  secretive dialogue-unethical at best,   
C.  Share nothing exclusively with adolescents  
D. It is not the role of teacher/coach to be confidante
III.  Addressing the “blind spot” (thank you, Dr.Wiley*)
A. Monitoring daily contact
1. how often is appropriate?
2. how much is appropriate?
B. Being “nosey” (concerned) about colleagues
1. watch each other’s backs
2. step-in/interject when questions arise
a. too much time being spent with one student
b. unaccounted time - missing meetings, events, etc.
IV. Tripping over the “enabler”
A. Parent’s permissions - “blanket” permissions for discussions
1. topics must be censored/restricted to an adult’s area/subject
2. other professions referred
B. Teens embellish, look for support, acceptance, reinforcement
1. are very emotional
2. have little/no experience base
V. Maintain boundaries/relative “positions”
A. Avoid empowering
B. Avoid codependency
VI. The Sex offender’s MO; the cycle - factors that may contribute to offending
A. Thoughts and feelings; the pretend-Normal phase
1. deviant fantasies
2. distorted thinking
3. interpersonal relations
4. stress
5. deviant stimulus
a. porno
b. deviant sexual outlets
c. addictive behaviors
d. substance abuse
e. failure to meet responsibilities
B. Acting out; Pre-assault phase
1. grooming
a. flirtations
b. gaining trust and confidence
2. cruising                
a. arcades, malls, gathering spots for potential victims
b. baby sitting
c. playgrounds, schools
3. proximity to victims
a. positions of authority; teachers, clergy, group leaders (scouts, little league, etc.)
b. level of influence/ power
C. Offending phase
1. methods of victimizing
a. isolation
b. coercion and manipulation (tied to VI.B.III.b)
2. rationalization and transitory guilt
a. distorted views of the victim
b. distorted views of self
c. unresolved guilt
VII. Ramifications of inappropriate relationships
A. Upon the victim
1. loss of trust, confidence
a. in self
b. in others, esp. adults
2. feelings of betrayal
3. physical health
a. sleep
b. eating
4. psychological
a. loss of self-esteem
b. depression
c. suicide ideation
B. Upon the victim’s family and social structure
C. Upon the offender
D. Upon the offender’s family  and social structure
E. Upon the community/organization (scouts, schools, church, etc.)
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An expanded outline with
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disclaimer on page 3
Ramifications of Educator Sexual Misconduct